Oct. 29, 2010 at 11:07pm with 7 notes
As of this November, Ana and I will have been together for one year. She is the only thin woman I have ever dated. Of all the women I have ever dated, she is also the one who has been the most supportive of my fat activism, and the only one who has made a point to tell me how beautiful I am every day. We met in grad school— in a class we shared together. Ana has since moved away to pursue her PhD, and now we’re dealing with the emotional difficulties of maintaining a long-distance relationship. She, of course, is worth it. When we first got together, I felt ambivalent about dating someone so much thinner than me. I felt, on one hand, that I was committing some act of political betrayal by dating someone who doesn’t identify— and isn’t identified by society at large— as fat. Dating a thin woman also made it pretty quickly apparent that I hadn’t overcome all my insecurities about my size, the way I thought I had. I found myself wondering: how can someone as gorgeous as HER possibly be attracted to someone like ME? But in the year we’ve been together, Ana has done so much more than reassure me that she finds me attractive at my current size: she’s made our relationship into a safe space for me to talk about both my personal insecurities and my political concerns. She’s shown an interest in fat activism, and she’s expressed a desire to go with me to the next NOLOSE conference. In general, she’s helped to make the relationship a space where I don’t just rely on her for reassurance of my attractiveness, but in which I’ve been able to build my own self-confidence. In conclusion: she’s amazing, and a year later, I am still very much in love.

As of this November, Ana and I will have been together for one year. She is the only thin woman I have ever dated. Of all the women I have ever dated, she is also the one who has been the most supportive of my fat activism, and the only one who has made a point to tell me how beautiful I am every day.

We met in grad school— in a class we shared together. Ana has since moved away to pursue her PhD, and now we’re dealing with the emotional difficulties of maintaining a long-distance relationship. She, of course, is worth it.

When we first got together, I felt ambivalent about dating someone so much thinner than me. I felt, on one hand, that I was committing some act of political betrayal by dating someone who doesn’t identify— and isn’t identified by society at large— as fat. Dating a thin woman also made it pretty quickly apparent that I hadn’t overcome all my insecurities about my size, the way I thought I had. I found myself wondering: how can someone as gorgeous as HER possibly be attracted to someone like ME? But in the year we’ve been together, Ana has done so much more than reassure me that she finds me attractive at my current size: she’s made our relationship into a safe space for me to talk about both my personal insecurities and my political concerns. She’s shown an interest in fat activism, and she’s expressed a desire to go with me to the next NOLOSE conference. In general, she’s helped to make the relationship a space where I don’t just rely on her for reassurance of my attractiveness, but in which I’ve been able to build my own self-confidence.

In conclusion: she’s amazing, and a year later, I am still very much in love.

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